it all depends on you

nothing stays the same, your body can heal. your life can change. you may not see it or feel it but changes happens when you change perspective. you can be sick and people will tell you are sick. you change that when you let your body heal itself. if nature cannot make it, nothing will . your house will always full of clutter if you think it should always be like that. 

…then you clean up😊 

what happens to the clutter? organized. 

what happens to the sick body? healed.

people(plural) tell me how am i doing it?(hiking up a mountain) you are ill, you are weak, you could get cold, your sickness could get worse. that’s their minds telling them that if they climb up the mountain, they will get sick. i tell my mind that if i move and keep going i’ll see how far i can go(God speed). 

yes there is limit but there is no limit when you put God first. 

Love, J

rollin’ in a deep

feb 25, 2025

bismillah. 

we’re rolling again.

things had happened. i wish i could write this on a paper, but things had changed. after so many years, i get to write again. i know i will somehow put off writing because life is happening and i havent sat around and think to myself ‘aah, another topic to write’.

it’s indescribable. 

writing this on a plane because it’s an 8 hour flight and what better way to use your time while everyone has dozed off. plus, i am very excited to remind you and myself that whatever happens, it’s for the best. also, it comes with how you deal with what is happening. no matter what is going on, please always be considerate of others specially to yourself. if it hurts you, forgive them but forgive yourself first. and as i am writing this, i could think of a person that would’ve handle situation and made it to chaos. 

one advice i could give to others - because this has worked for me already - is that, if you are in a complicated situation, LEAVE IT. dont try to fix it. understand it. let it be and let it wait. otherwise you’re just trying to show off. you can’t fix a situation. you can only spectate and understand. if you are involve, try to avoid participating that much. it will only add complications to it. let it be, just let it be and let yourself out of it COMPLETELY.

you are much more than proving that you are right.

you are better than how they do you wrong.

you are not ignoring them, you are watering down the situation.

it’s okay if you made a wrong decision. you can forget about it and move on. life will fix it for you, in time. because life will always want you to win.

please remember that.

love you all. J

SLOW AND SIMPLE

…living

it’s 1:18 pm today. i have my coffee beside me. and a water. mobile phones everywhere in the table because my relatives thought i can fix them. thu? 

yes sometimes, i can. but most of the time i get sick of it and get rid of it by telling them to bring it to the cellphone repair shop because i could’t do anything about it. but the reality is… why do they have to forget their passwords anyway. 

accountability.

slow and simple because these days i’ve been watching rural daily lives documentaries on youtube. everything is green and backward. for example, cooking on a fire pit. getting all the ingredients at their backyards. water from a well. just wow. i don’t know if this is me looking for a peace of mind or piece of inspiration and be grateful for everything i have now. 

an old saying… “be careful of what you wish for” literally, most of the my childhood wish are now with/in me. i can’t illustrate them all but i can say, i have been where should be. and i am where i am right now because this was once considered in my brain. 

i have plenty of things in my brain. and if it cultivates. then it’s a story to tell.

let’s see what’s gonna happen. 

J

KINDNESS OR PEOPLE PLEASING

i’ve known so many people and i’ve never clicked with anyone that breaks the standard of what i think is real kindness.

i’m not nice. people who i lived with, knew i’m not. but if i have to help, i will. I’m not sure either if i am kind but i never act kind. specially, if people are looking or around. i would want them to think i am not nice, then surprise them with a sincere help… and i will, not just an offer. i will. if they refused to, they must be taking life seriously. Hey! we’re all human, loosen up! 

…and that’s a self-reminder first. 

you will find what you seek, so a post by haileypaigemagee on instagram explained really well what’s the difference between kindness and people pleasing.

she elaborated the following...

PEOPLE PLEASING is rooted from,

1. transactionality - i’ll give you this so that you give me something back.
2. obligation - i’m giving you this so that i can’t feel guilty.
3. compulsion - i’m giving you this because i have no idea how not to give you this.
4. loss aversion - i’m giving you this so i don’t lose you.

KINDNESS is rooted from,

1. desire - i really want to give this to you.
2. goodwill - i’m eager to increase that quality of your life because i care about you.
3. choice - i don’t have to do this. i want to do this.

if you are my reader and you are benefited from this post. keep it to yourself and choose kindness. don’t be a people pleasing.

you can help other understand by sharing this post. 

well, you don’t have to. one person to read this post is all that matter.

J

apple and coffee

have you tried eating this combo? 

ok, so let me make this post a WISHful thoughts for everyone. 

I WISH EVERYONE WILL HAVE UNDERSTANDING ON THE THINGS THEY CAN’T.

past is past. i may wrong people and definitely wronged me, huge. i make mistakes but that doesn’t mean i will stay in that mess. so as them. it’s all about understanding. see, if i hear people telling me i am this and that because i did this and that… well, smart people know that this is only based on their own perspective in life and their own experience. 

let’s look at it this way, why do you think a guy went inside a book store? to buy a book, look for a book but may not buy it. just walking around feeling the books around. you didn’t think of that guy stealing a book, right? impossible. BECAUSE YOU HAVEN’T DONE IT! also, you think of the good.

see, you are a positive thinker! GOOD FOR YOU! just like i never believe in same gender relationship because it never occur to me or to my mind.

try apple and coffee together. i insist. 😂

sometimes, my brain works like this. assorted! and it’s okay. we are all human. and i always need my laptop to take all that’s overflowing.

want another mix to this? our road is on construction. bad for the business. very noisy, muddy, few customers because of the road blocks. but think about the outcome after the road is fixed? i am thinking of it. same goes when a woman is pregnant and has to carry a baby inside her body for 9 months long. but the outcome is super rewarding. sure it will take longer than expected. but these are the things that are out of our control. you can’t disagree. 

also, this is a 3-day writing in count. 

thank you for the patience.

the sunlight on my face while writing this this morning is good, too. 

J

January 3, 2023 - New Year, Manila

in frustration to go home. a sarcastic friend of mine said who is taking flights on new year's? well, us! and we’re stuck in manila.

 

here i am. wanting to complain everything since we got here in manila. but having to think of kuala lumpur trip before all this mess makes everything perfect. 

instead of thinking of our misfortune. let me remind myself of all the good things happen to us. because complains won’t solve it. we did everything we could. but we can’t go against nature. 

day one in kuala lumpur, alhamdulillah. i am back again. but with company. my friend and my little sister. 

everything started at the plane take off. that feeling when i know i’ll be in kl at any moment. those people in the aircraft, knowing that they will be walking with us through arrival hall way. i couldn’t contain my feeling. it’s all warm and feeling myself again. not saying i don’t like being in my country. i am saying that traveling is more than home for me. especially meeting old friends. 

there is something in traveling/flights that puts me in another level of good wholesome being. only God knows. and i thank Him for letting me feel it again. it’s all in Him. 

so we arrived at our destination, a residential unit - awesome accommodations. 18th floor. perfect place for sunrise/sunset sightings. good for us, they got the sunrise. mmmm, my favourite.   

five days in kuala lumpur without wasting any minute - haha. and resting is calculated as we needed to get to the next plan as itinerary. ok ok, i wouldn’t go to any details. because we had so much and to put it into writing is going to take a lot of time. i was telling my friend while we were running towards the train, that we did things we were doing in a year, fitting into five days only. that’s when i know i can’t write everything in one post. 

also, i am writing to remind myself of all the good. bad may occur as flight cancellation, passengers complaining, i even heard a black american guy telling other passengers that “manila is a mess" but what’s the worst thing that could happen? we have place to stay in here. it’s just that, it wasn’t the plan and i wouldn’t want to be in any other room but mine. XD you understand, right? ok.

thanks for reading. and i love kl, btw. <3

j

small talk

...doesn’t work for me. that’s why i needed to write. because it’s not always enough. if people asked how my life is going… “i’m good” won’t suffice my answer. not keeping in touch with people i used to talk a lot before my life now, sometimes pisses me off. i want to tell them every details and i want to know theirs, too. luckily, there is this thing called “acceptance” of all these things of all these changes and understand that life doesn’t stay the same everyday. 

"everyday is not the same."

it may seem like it is. but if we make the best of our days, it will be different. this may never be the same situation to many… but if you feel like you’ve been the same person or you’ve been in the same place or you haven’t been different or being yourself. that is not true. you are where you are for a reason. you are who you are because you need to understand something. life is never fair. ironically, it is what makes all life fair. because without low, there is no high and without day there is no night. you get the point right? another example, if there is no poor, what’s the point of being rich. light, dark? so if you haven’t been everywhere, and you see all these people traveling all the time, wait for your turn. because if you can’t travel, it’s not because of your environment, and it is not because of you or your circumstances, it’s because it should not happen to you YET! trust the process! you can’t be impatient. don’t cry for it, too. well, you can... but you know there is always a better way to cry. SWEAT! 

anyways, going back to having a small talk. i am having a big thought about it but incase this blog isn’t enough. wait for the next. thank you for reading. may this be beneficial to you or if not, then get a good sleep. it will give you super power.

Thanks, J