coffee talk | Do things that matter

how can we make sure that things that we do or want to do really matter?

i am not sure if this is a question or a reminder to me. but all i know is i've got to the point where i am asking myself - is this really matter? am i happy doing it. but does it really counts? is this really going to make me what i want in life? a good hobby doesn't destroy you. but it takes my time passes by. should i stop entertaining sometimes myself and only focus on doing what i should do? or should i do both if i'm able to?

i had thought of this things over and over again. which i have actually wrote a short thoughts about it before in this blog - entitle "thinking is harmful" - you can check it out. it's really really short and thought it could help. or not. no violence.

blogging is the only way i can soothe myself from stressing on what to do during free time. maybe you too. why would i know. ^_^ but if you are reading this blog then probably you have wasted some of your time and energy at things that doesn't matter and you try to redeem it. no we can't. though we can change our future habit by changing our behavior and disciple ourselves if we want to. "WILL IS ALL IT TAKES".

yours,
JS

coffee talk | am i afraid to have a relationship?

this is a question most of them asked(me). because in this generation, having a relationship is what makes you an experienced personality? might be true. but what is not so good at it is the lack of protocol and losing one's self. for most of what i had observed.

i guess i'm just not a typical youth, and so my friends are. from previous to presents. for where i am right now makes me realize that i lived at two different worlds.

it was so different that i thought having a boyfriend/girlfriend is just a matter of looking for a spouse afterwards along the relationship. wrong! as you age, you learn. it's apparently not really what i believed in. the idea of being valued by someone, having being cared tenderly by someone and do the whole thing of you-and-me-together is what every curious boy/girl wanting to have. or experience at least. it's fun though accordingly, kills some boredom. and don't be too serious at a relationship. if you don't want to end it too soon.

happenings are so unpredictable. but "end" is a sure thing. i believe in consequence in whatever we do. as much i had observe people around me getting happy(for some short time), getting hurt, getting lost. this may not applied to everyone but yes, i'm afraid it could happen to me, too.

they said "don't believe in what men says, believe in what they do". on some level, we tend to adore a person, some we develop feelings. but we certainly don't want to hookup such as hangout, dating and whatnot. liking a person is normal for a normal human being. but acting upon it. DON'T. CASUAL is sexy, CARING is creepy(read it somewhere). but it sank-in because it resonates what's actually happening around us.

i do respect people who give it a try and went on a relationship. it's bravery. knowing that love out of uncertainty will only lead to nothing but breakage and waste of time.

but again, as a normal human being, there's nothing wrong in being afraid. we're all human. most of us want to have that perfect moment at a perfect time. it's always about choice. and i choose not to abuse my heart. because at the end, this heart doesn't really belong to us.

we appreciate love and affection in so many ways, but most of it is worldly. my Father once told me, don't waste time loving at things that doesn't really matter. because once your heart stops beating, it stops beating. that's it. and there's nothing you can do about it.

and as i write this blog. the fear was totally my definition on having a relationship before marriage.
fear in so many aspects. to parents, to Allah, to losing self, to breaking something that doesn't really belong to us. and that is the heart.

and all this thoughts, equals my brain-working, equals my tummy starving. i enjoy sharing this thoughts anyway. wish i could have this more often. it unleashes thoughts out of pressure. it releases tension of what you fight for. let's spread love in a halal way. to parents. to family. to friends. religion.

yours,
JS

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coffee talk | short and simple

0055. almost dawn. here i am. writing a blog. reading at the same time. and the moment a blog gets you because it's just too powerful. i got to say i need to write one. whatever it is. i just have to.

well, yesterday is one of the most valuable and most important day for (us) muslims to celebrate to. it's eeeeeid. particularly eid ul fitr. yaay! got a new items to offer for this day. like, new dress aha, aha, i don't have to mention it because i know for sure you won't be interested in it. it's boring to list it out here.

one of the things that keeps a moment to last forever and never be forgotten is to take pictures or write about it. 

this year, my eid still dull. the only reason is... i'm not with my family to celebrate it with. but i will make sure that i will cheer up next time because i will spend it with them for next year, inshaAllah. 

short and simple.

yours

JS

coffee talk | be inspired. the first step

i am living alone. without family. close relatives and whatnot. so i tend to lose motivation most of the days. i'm up and down. and let's stop this because just by writing the first line made me felt sad :(

but that's not what i want to share with you all. nobody wants to be sad. unless you are a psycho-mental-bla-bla.

moving on...

so you are here because we are thinking the same thoughts. we all want to be inspired. right? right. i got your back. if we are literally talking face-to-face, and you are a girl(muslim's limit), i'll tap you'll shoulder.

Be inspired. i hope i can get my point in a very short writing. blogs, vlogs, help-self books, asking advice, what else, talking to parents, is where you can get an inspiration. and hopefully stay motivated.

what is a very good thing about being inspired is, you see things very profound. you will contemplate most on the future you. it boosts you to do something. something that might help you pick yourself up that leads to helping others. you know people who doesn't have inspiration doesn't really care of what might be the outcome of what they do. inspirations gets us up. gives us hope. make us work our butt off. yeah! (you should be yelling).

last words if you are still reading. REMEMBER. inspiration motivates us to be better ourselves. don't you wanna be a better one? (blasting end)

i hope you have an "of course" answer to that question ^_^

peace out.


yours,
JS

coffee talk | new day is a good day

everyday is a new day. and i define it a good day because i want it that way. it is not a bad day if bad thing happens. well, i call it "experience". experience to change, the next time i'll have my good day. the good news is it won't last till 24 hours. wanna bet?!

it's been a long time since i had my last blog. i've been thinking so deep on how can i make my blog more desirable to the readers. and there's a bad effect of it. thinking to write only for the sake of the other side of the screen. hoping to satisfy the readers. meet their needs. and make them happy atleast. well, that set of mind ends right now.

i've been watching vlogs these days and i found it interesting. but there are obstacles for me to start my own(screaming). and i'll probably elaborate that later on on my next coming blogs. inshaAllah.

so, i can't make vlogs(aka video logs) yey! i'm not too happy for that. and believe me if i say, i had the most gratifying not-more-than-an-hour conversation with my professor today. and this is something not everyone could get. I thank God for giving me that moment. and probably the best moment of this day.

and because of that conversation. here i am writing a blog. which i am thinking i would regularly do for my everyday basis. or at a very least 3x a week. or once. i just have to write, pal!

if you are an i.t student. you will understand that in our case, it's pretty hard to maintain a blog. specially when you want it to be more interesting... like making a tips, thoughts about something, writing an article about a subject. anything, anything that you may thought an educational to the readers. it's just too hard to make it as a priority.

well, it's a new day. and it is part of any wise man's knowledge that everything happens by the will of God. Alhamdulillah an inspiration came without, me asking it.

pretty plain blog. but anyway, i'll try to make it more creative for the next time.
i just have to make one right now. because if i don't. if i don't... i'll be drinking coffee ^_^

peace out.

coffee talk | giving back...

so, i had this really terrible experience that i wanted to share to anyone who had(or having) the same struggle. it’s the hardest part of my i.t. student life, so far. it is when i worked 4 days(4 daaays!!) straight to retrieve my lost data from my corrupted external hard disk due to sudden unplug without safety removal. a lesson.

the scariest dialog message EVER!!!

images, videos, document files, and program applications that are so significant (soo important) to me are what occupies my external hard disk. it actually took me a minute to grasp the fact that i’ve really lost my data that i can’t change what i’m seeing from my screen every time i tried to plug it (hoping it’s just a problem with the usb port) and says i have to format the disk before i can open it. O.M.G.!!! i’m blanked! no words! you know that shock reaction when you just can’t hardly move, only your chest that pumps in and out dramatically? well, i guess i just have to tell you, it’s dreadful fellas!!

i’m sharing this blog because of success (alhamdulillah). i remember a clip i’ve watched that talks about success and it says about “giving back!”. i had a huge huge relief after i found out that i can actually GET BACK my data by simply downloading an application program from a reliable link sources. tell you more about it onwards.

ridiculously, i had it from youtube. i typed words like, how to retrieve my lost/corrupted data from a hard disk bla...bla..., ENTER! i can’t find a word to describe how i am really emotionally down at that moment, clicking here and there. open up tabs. anxiously, thinking of failing to find the answer just like that. impossibly NO! hopeless!

luckily, i am here to share with you a piece of help. yeey! you can get back all the files you’ve lost and even the accidentally deleted ones. bonus!

if you are a techy person, fist bump. i gave you 2 possible software apps that could help you, just click here and here and we’re done. if you’re not(a techy person), then i guess it is my responsibility to share with you a little of my knowledge, ahem! drop me your questions at jhw2801@gmail.com and i’ll send you some instructions that worked on me. it’ll be my pleasure to help.

PEACE!

#itellyouhowto 

yours,
js

coffee talk | and when it rains

Courtesy of Google.com/images: Malang, Indonesia. Day caption. skyscraper.

Night Caption.

here, where i am located, in a small town of malang, rain is on and off. the touches of wind, pats us here and there. the sunshine’s merely presence. and oh, it just can’t get my clothes dry off. bad! :((

one of the things i like in this town is its cool weather. proud to be its resident, once a upon a time. it’s just so sad about the fact that i can’t be forever here. sooner or later, i’ll be stepping out of its bound. now, this reminds me of the first time i came. ok. ok. no drama. sorry. moving on, i may not know the specific date and time but one thing i’m pretty sure of is that, i’ll be leaving soon. a year or more. and yes, as a matter of fact, i’m counting. omg!

it’s been years of fruitful memories and meaningful stay in malang. enough for me to write a whole bunch of experiences and goodies about it. i don’t pressure myself, so ok, not now. L A T E R ! InshaAllah.

i can’t talk much about my educational status, because i really do respect differences. i am here for a purpose. not only for education. i may not be graduating on time, but it’s not an issue with me anymore. but see, i’m counting. haha! lots and lots of thanks to those who keep on asking, ‘when am i going to finish and go home’. you guys are just an awesome inspirations to me. BIG thanks.

one day, i’ll look back and mesmerize good things and good people i’ve met. and that bad things and bad people(no bad people, it’s just 'hard to understand people') are the tests. blessings in disguise, i call it. because there’s no any other way to sincerely improve our character without dealing out from these difficulties. then, Allah will put us in a difficult situations with difficult people so we could reflect on them. it’s just so mashaAllah, because we have no control over everything that’s happening to our everyday life and in the future. that Someone up THERE is in charge over everything. bad and good. but look, thinking of it over-all and i’m really happy with everything. EVERYTHING.

the last thing i’d love to have in this blog, that i will surely be thinking after all these ups and downs, is the saying “don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened”. saaaaay!! :))

i love rains (not storm). till next. Salam everyone.

#lifelessonlearn

yours,
JS